Our society's predominant orientation about death and mourning is avoidance and so it is no wonder that we find it diffiult to talk about death and dying. We don't want to talk about our funeral, how we want to die, or what happens when we are gone. We don't want to think about medical concerns and how we want to receive medical care. Yet those conversations are essential components that ensure that the care we want at the end of our life, whenever that is, is understood and made available so that our loved ones do not have to make difficult decisions when we can't speak for ourselves.
Consider the facts:
- 90% of people say that talking with their loved ones about end of life care is important, yet 27% have actually done so.
- 80% of people say that if seriously ill, they would want to talk to their doctor about wishes for medical treatment toward the end of their life, but only 7% report having had this conversation with their doctor.
- 82% of people say it's important to put their wishes in writing, and only 23% have actually done it.
(Sources: The Conversation Project National Survey, 2013 and Survey of Californians by the California HealthCare Foundation)
These medical decisions are important and I can help you work through the process of establishing your advance directives and end of life care wishes.
At the same time, celebrating love and life is an equally essential part of the conversation and I can help you and your loved ones negotiate conversations around care, around wishes and celebrations, and needs and wants in deeply participatory and caring conversations.
Stanford Medicine Letter Project
Beyond the advanced directives and wishes for care, this act is a beautiful way to leave your loved ones with a timeless gift - a letter that acknowledges others and lets you communicate important messages including "goodbye". In a single 2 hour coaching session, we talk through the most important messages you want to leave for your loved ones with plenty of time for you to write your message and bring closure to the activity when you are done.